Career Tip of the Week

Career Tip of the Week

Healing Tips for the Broken Hearted Job Seeker

March 10, 2010 by sparktalk

By CAREEREALISM-Approved Expert, Joshua Waldman



Someone once told me a corporation was a nasty thing to fall in love
with - because it will NEVER love you back. The rules of loyalty in the
work force are changing. No one can deny that.

However, knowing this doesn't change the pain of getting laid off or let
go. It hurts. It can wound.

Each of us reacts in one of two ways, either by getting pissed off and
hating the company we used to love, or by blaming ourselves in what can
be called a state of numbness.

These wounds deserve every bit of healing we have. However, because our
financial situation may depend on sweeping the pain aside and getting
another job as quickly as possible, we might need a strategy of getting
past this stage.

For those of you who can't afford to wait 3 months to regroup, lick the
wounds and find your emotional footing again, I offer these simple speed
coping tips.



1. Stop the Story: Stop replaying the day you got the pink slip. Stop
repeating the story that is upsetting you. Instead, replace it with what
you need to do right now.



2. Stop and Breath: Calm down. You can never get anywhere if your mind
is still in a fighting mode or if you are numb. Wake up in the morning
and count 10 breaths. Allow your mind to come back down.



3. Allow the Parts: Allow the part of you that is angry to be angry - on
the weekend when you can afford it. Allow that part of you that is sad
or afraid to feel that way, after 5 PM when you've completed your job
search tasks for the day.



4. Let it Out: Find new ways to channel the emotion. If you punch, then
punch a punching bag. If you shout, then shout in the car on the
highway. If you cry, then give yourself space to do that. And when you
are done, leave the emotion there.

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